When a female ask you for time and to go slow, she has purpose behind that. It’s either going to be roast beef… or a tv dinner! Be mindful…
Many males out here are simply weak and pathetic when it comes to mentally strong women, regardless if they are perfectly composed and on top of their shit. Or broken, drained and bitter with walls.
For many women out here now days in the roaring 20’s. If a guy of commonsense, spine and any sort of true masculinity expects to be involved with, even share a life with an intimidating, or broken, or strong willed, fiery spirited woman.
You MUST give them time! many of these ladies have tall walls built up and are desperately trying to correct shit that they have done to themselves by poor choice. And even more so by the hands of an abuser, a narcisist, a simp, beta male ex, with no knowledge of what it means to be a man is at all!
How to lead, how to spiritually lead a family, how to build and grow or even how to provide mental, emotional, financial or even physical support to his partner.
So these women become drained, have to suffer regrets and loss… They need time and if YOU, as that MAN… who wants her truly cares. Give it to her and be there in friendship, ceremony, tears, developing comfortability (which will be slow), temperance and virtual.
Even be sexual with her if she is opening up for that and want that with you, but don’t be weak by pushing her to do and comitt to what she is not capable of yet. Give time, but you also have the right to compassionately… let her know that you are not an option and not going to be her Segway back to soulful contentment and then watch her run off to what she believes is greener!
And trust me… it will not take you long to discover the truth is in fact she is deceitful, has dark agenda and intentions to run right back to the streets!
You must allow her time and space! Let it all simmer… Put that shit in a crock pot; this is a slow burn! A process! But some dudes just want to pop it in the microwave! Get everything you want within 5 minutes…
Like a damned TV dinner! But these women are not TV dinners. You can’t just press a button and get everything you want.
Think of it this way… Which meal generally taste better; would you rather have the quick to heat, pop in the microwave for a 5 minutes tv dinner all good to go and will still leave you hungry and less healthy and fulfilled?
Or, would you rather have the nice, 12 hours slow cooked, roast beef? That’s been cooked in the slow cooker… That comes out all nice and juicy and tender… Because you let that mother fucker simmer for 12 hours, all day! And it’s had a chance for the ingredients to slowly seep in… the savory, soft, carrots, potatoes… the broth!
All the ingredients have came together… and they’ve had a chance to, marinate! Leaving both of you full and satisfied? Definitely healthier and happier!
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is in turning a girl off by making her feel pressure, by trying to force her to like you! She has to do that on her own! There is nothing you can do that’s going to convince her with your words into liking you.
It has to be a natural process… either she does, or she doesn’t! Can her feelings grow over time? Sure they can! But again, it’s not something you are going to make happen. She has to like YOU.
You want to make sure you guys are having a great time together! Make sure you are giving her all of your attention and that you are making her feel good about herself. That things are fun and light hearted. And you’re not putting all this stress and pressure on her.
One of the worst things a guy can do is by being overbearing that she begins to see you as a psycho, stalker, serial killer or something. By being needy, you only show her you are weak and that will kill her attraction if any at all.
Knock it off and get your shit together! Unless there is history, some sort of intimate history and wonder, attraction, distance, space and time. You can’t be in love with someone that you don’t know, even after just being only a few weeks or months. If you have only just met her and she is telling you she knows her damage, has been abused and damaged and needs time and wants to go slow!
Just be happy that she is even willing to go slow with you, take time and is interested in possibilities! That is really all that it is and you are either willing to give her that, or go your own way, somewhere else and quit!
However… Don’t be simps and don’t settle though and don’t be needy if it is obvious that she is not interested. There are good women out here and unfortunately, some of them have bruised, scarred, broken wrappers! Life happens. But when you have that good woman come for you or you chase her.
Tread lightly when she ask for time, unless she is active and chasing validation from every other cock. She is full of bull shit in those cases. But if she is allowing you space with her and you she is connecting and allowing you in; sharing with you…
Be what she needs and take the journey with her and at her speed. That slow cooked roast is gonna taste fucking great in the end!
Until next time.
#savage #alphalife
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