As an ENFJ Type – A Personality, I realize that I am NOT the typical ENFJ person. I am quite sure that I really didn’t even need to take that long assed personality test 3 times, on 3 different occasions.
However, I did. I have always been stoic and mostly indifferent. While still being a very compassionate and empathetic person, you know? The classic Alpha type.
So, as someone who has always been a leader; I discovered that trait at the early age of just 19, when I started a car club. Made up of 33 guys and girls at its peak.
For almost 5 years I lead them all, put out fires, checked all the boxes and ultimately lead them to know more purpose and direction. Which by doing so and figuring things out, also molded me deeper as well.
Anyway, most of you that know me know my story… so let me get back on point and off of myself directly.
ENFJs are more commonly tested in the type T personalities, seeing as how they are way higher strung and prone to stress then we Type A’s are. I am not unpacking Type There, that’s a whole lot of other dynamics and you’ll just have to Google the Type T’s.
ENFJs are natural perfectionists and while we might find ourselves somewhere in the middle possessing both traits, regular ENFJ’s do end up more inclined towards turbulent qualities.
Here are some of the traits which become more prominent with the ENFJ-A personality type however…
ENFJs are naturally social people, who aren’t afraid of taking charge of a situation. We are usually rather confident in ourselves and our abilities, which helps us to step into these situations without being fearful of the results.
ENFJs enjoy connecting with others and are naturally outgoing people. For us stepping into social situations can be rather enjoyable, since it gives us a chance to meet people and really get to know them.
We are energized by the presence of others and really need to make connections in order to feel like ourselves. For the ENFJ socializing is important and being around people often makes us feel a sense of comfort and joy.
We are outgoing and friendly people, which helps us when it comes to being social and being in crowds of people. ENFJs are also naturally assertive people, which does lend to the type A ENFJ even more.
We are not afraid of taking charge when the situation calls for it and can step in where others might fail to do so.
We walk into these situations prepared to lead and can often navigate the problems without much issues or reservation at all. ENFJs know that we can handle the leadership role, because we are confident in our ability to understand others.
And figure out how to inspire and communicate with them naturally. This sense of confidence is what helps the ENFJ lead others and guide them towards the best path for solving whatever problems might be in front of them.
We Are Go-Getters
ENFJs are naturally go-getters who don’t just sit around and wait for things to happen. This does lend to the ENFJ-A personality even more, since we are not afraid of making things happen.
Instead of allowing self-doubt and fear to hold us back, we are willing to go after the things we want and need in life. ENFJs do often focus on doing these things for those around them, but even still we are forward and focused people.
We don’t sit around second guessing our, (EVER!) since I realize that hesitancy can lead to my failing or falling behind. When the ENFJ is sure of themselves, they are confident in their abilities and will be much more capable of getting things done.
This confidence is often what helps the ENFJ be go-getters and achieve the goals which are most valuable to us. The difference in this for the type A ENFJ, is that we are much less afraid of failure than most ENFJs.
While ENFJs are naturally capable of getting things done, they do often fear failure in the process. The ENFJ-A personality is much less afraid of these failings, and instead we are willing to take them as they come.
We are comfortable with making mistakes, as long as we can keep moving forward and still achieve the things which matter to us. We have a more laid-back approach when it comes to these mistakes, and so we aren’t as anxious about things not going perfectly each time.
These are certainly traits less commonly seen is ENFJs, since they are often perfectionists and this is something which can be hard for them to avoid. This is why ENFJs do often test somewhere in the middle, possessing both turbulent and assertive qualities in somewhat equal measures.
The ENFJ, who is less of a perfectionist, will find themselves accepting the smaller mistakes, in hopes of being able to make the bigger picture more meaningful and valuable to themselves and those around them.
As long as the people they love are happy and cared for, they become much less frustrated about the smaller mistakes or failings. This type of ENFJ realizes that they cannot control everything but are focused on ensuring that everyone is happy and the more important things are working out as they should.
We Stress Less
ENFJs will always be prone to a certain amount of stress from certain situations, which is something more tied to the turbulent personalities. It is rare for an ENFJ to be completely laid back and free of stress, mostly because they take on so much responsibility.
The assertive, A Type ENFJ however, does find ways of minimizing this stress, and does their best to find a healthy balance. We want to focus more on being reasonably stressed, in order to get things done.
Rather than feeling constantly anxious and afraid that we cannot get things done the way that we want to. While this can be challenging for the regular ENFJ, some do possess a much more laid-back demeanor.
This type of ENFJ wants to be able to get things done without allowing it to leave them feeling uneasy and overworked all of the time. We often have learned this skill through our loved ones and life, and realize they are better when they are a bit more laid back about things.
ENFJs care about making others happy and want to be able to enjoy the presence of the ones they love. Sometimes in order to truly do this, we need to let go of some things and not allow ourselves to stress over the more insignificant details or things we cannot control all of the time.
Until next time!
#alphalife #savage
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