Having gone out with with literally dozens of women and gone to bed with hundreds of females over the past three decades, I’ve learned that there’s nothing you can do to GUARANTEE having sex with any particular woman.
However… by doing a few simple things, you can dramatically INCREASE THE ODDS of going all the way on the very first meet, relationship to be, or not to be.
1. Meet her in a non-traditional venue.
By that I mean, don’t take her to a fancy dinner or do anything else that she associates with a “date.” If you do, that puts her into the same “make him wait” mindset that she adopted with the last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner.
Instead meet her somewhere informal, like a coffee shop or some cheap diner for lunch. Don’t make a big deal out of who pays for what, because again, the last 100 guys she dated paid for her meal because, as was blatantly obvious to her, they were hoping to get laid.
As an alpha male, you shouldn’t do anything because you’re “hoping to get laid.” That reeks of desperation and kills attraction that a woman feels.
A more attractive guy is one who gets laid all the time, so sex is no big deal to him. If a woman wants his attention, she has to earn it. In other words, he is a challenge for her, not a sure thing.
2. Have the proper mindset throughout the date.
You want to be relaxed and feeling sexual. (To get yourself into a sexual state, try watching porn just before the date, but don’t masturbate.) And it’s important to feel relaxed. No nervousness.
For a woman to become sexual, she needs to feel relaxed and horny. It is important that you feel that exact way yourself, because studies have shown that when two people are in rapport, they eventually match emotional states with each other.
So when you’re chilling with the girl, you should feel deeply relaxed and horny, and then engage her in conversation about neutral subjects until you see signs that she too is getting relaxed and horny.
3. Get her alone with you.
Let’s say you and the girl hit it off fantastically in the coffee shop, so you then take her to a bar to get a quick drink. Things are really going well there. The conversational vibe is excellent. You see signs of her increasing sexual arousal and openness to intimacy.
Some signs of a woman’s deepening sexual attraction to you include: – Sitting with her inner thigh exposed.
– Fidgeting with her clothes. She might even unfasten a button or two of her blouse.
– She engages in “triangle gazing.” She’ll look at one of your eyes, then another, and then at your mouth.
– You notice her stealing glimpses at your chest and even your crotch.
The problem is you can’t just say, “Let’s go to my place and have sex.” With women you’re on a first date with, whenever you verbalize anything sexual, it kills the mood for her and results in you sleeping alone that night.
Instead, mention an innocent excuse for the two of you to go to your place. (Examples could be, “You should come hear my ‘Best of the 80s’ CD” or “That’s awesome that you’re so good with art… I have a painting in my living room that I’d love to get your opinion on”)
Since the two of you have an “innocent” reason to be alone together, it avoids triggering the alarm bells in her mind that scream, “Uh oh! I don’t want to be a slut!”
Once the two of you are then alone, isolated at your place, you can set the scene for the seduction.
It can take several hours for the woman to feel comfortable enough with you at your house, so you need to be patient.
Sit on your couch and watch a movie. Slowly escalate. Hold hands, stroke her hair, and so on from there.
Sexually, women are like irons. They heat up slowly. Keep that in mind and don’t rush things, and you’ll have your maximum shot at having sex on a first meet.
The “Boyfriending” Technique
I’m going to reveal an important comfort-building technique I call “Boyfriending.” In a nutshell, there’s something you can do that’s usually done ONLY by a woman’s boyfriend.
If you do it too, it’s a way of getting under a woman’s radar and making her comfortable enough around you so that she’ll be receptive to sex without making you wait.
You see, in order for a typical woman to have sex with a man, she must have feelings of comfort. It is not enough for her to simply feel attraction for the guy.
Let’s say you meet a girl at a 5 PM happy hour. The two of you hit it off, having a great conversation. She’s laughing. She’s interested. You entrance her by telling her fascinating stories about your life. The two of you have good rapport.
Around 7:30, you get hungry and invite her to get something to eat. Dinner goes well too. Then dinner ends. Now what?
Around this time, a lot of guys get confused about how to advance the interaction forward. Clearly the goal is to get laid, but the roadmap is often muddled.
Usually the night ends with the woman saying something like, “I had great time meeting you. Call me. Bye!”
Often, the need for comfort is why women like to make guys wait before sex.
(If the guy’s lucky, it might be only three dates, but with a lot of women, the guy can be made to wait for months.)
Fortunately, there’s a way to short-circuit that barrier. I call it the “Boyfriending Technique.”
If you watch couples who are in close relationships, you’ll notice an interesting phenomenon. The man and woman are extremely comfortable touching each other, so much so that they’ll even do seemingly gross things like brush sleep (“eye boogers”) out of each other’s eyes.
It’s a behavior that’s only done by people who are completely comfortable around each other. Certainly when you are in a relationship where you can brush sleep out of a woman’s eye, you’ve long since passed the point where the two of you are comfortable having sex.
Catch my drift? You can use this as a psychological weapon to make the woman feel more comfortable around you.
In mid-conversation, tell her to hold still and close her eyes. Pretend there’s sleep in her eye, and make her believe that you just brushed it off.
Later, after the two of you finish eating and leave the restaurant, again tell her to hold still. With your finger, brush off an imaginary piece of food from her lower lip.
The net result of the Boyfriending Technique is nuclear. First, it sub-communicates that the two of you are very comfortable around each other.
Second, it involves you touching her face, bringing your heads closer together and progressing towards a make out session.
Third, in the case of you touching her lower lip, you’re in fact touching an erogenous zone. That’s right… a woman’s lower lip has a high concentration of nerve endings. Stimulating her lower lip makes her body release sex hormones.
Make the Boyfriending Technique a part of your dating arsenal, and you’ll find more success than ever before. You may just be having sex within several hours instead of having to wait several months.
It’s undeniable Fate That Fucking, Happens… lol
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could create feelings within a woman of a deep connection with you… even if you two have known each other for only a few hours… and without having to resort to complicated (and risky!) hypnosis tactics?
Well, good news. There is a very easy, no-risk way to do this. I call it the Fated Encounter Technique.
Here’s why it works. Every woman has a fantasy from the time she was a little girl, triggered by a constant diet of romance movies and novels, about fate bringing the man of her dreams to her.
In one typical scene the guy and the girl almost bump into each other on the sidewalk. Instead, fate keeps them apart, and they go their separate ways.
Then, two years later, they live in the same apartment building. Yet after several close calls, they still don’t meet, again because of fate.
The two date other people, off and on, and yet are never happy. Months go by. The man and the woman each ponder what it will be like when they meet that special someone, someday…
And then near the end of the movie, fate finally brings them together. And of course they hit it off right from the start.
Wouldn’t it be nice if that could happen in real life, rather than having to wait through several dates before the woman finally feels comfortable enough with you to have sex?
Well, it can. You can speed the seduction process and have the woman feeling deeply connected with you by using my Fated Encounter Technique. I’ll explain how it works.
During the course of your conversation with the woman, you bring up places she has been to. If you’ve been to those same places, you then talk about how amazing it is that the two of you could have been there at the same time and yet destiny kept you apart.
Let’s say, to use a recent example I encountered, that she shops at the local Whole Foods grocery store.
You can then say, “That’s awesome. I shop there too. Imagine, we’ve probably seen each other there all the time!”
Another example would be that the two of you go to downtown LA all the time, and probably have walked past each other on many occasions.
And now, you can say, “Isn’t it amazing how fate has finally brought us together?”
As the conversation progresses, the two of you can talk about other coincidences, and the things the two of you might have done together if you’d only known each other.
With the seed planted, as the girl thinks about those coincidences, and how “fate” has now brought the two of you together, she will then start to feel as if she’s known you, on a deeper psychic level, for a lot longer than just a few hours.
You, she concludes, are the man she’s been waiting for all her life.
So Y’all Fucked, But Now You Also Want Her
We’ve all had that special woman in our lives. You know… the one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and a perfect face.
She dates the more “adept” guys… but how can you get her to like you?
While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks, a woman finds a man attractive because of his personality. A ideal man is an alpha male who’s confident in himself and not afraid to take the lead to get what he wants out of life.
Ironically, what this means is that the best way for a girl to like you is when she feels like she has EARNED you.
That’s because to get a girl to like you, you should come from a mindset of high value. Never come from a position of neediness.
So the best attitudes to have towards any one particular woman are:
1. Nonchalance.
2. Non-attachment to whether she likes you or not. (By that I mean, if she likes you that’s awesome, but if not, there are tons of other chicks out there who are equally as great as she is.)
The bottom line is that a woman should never be a challenge for you. Instead you should be a challenge for her.
In addition to placing a high value on yourself, you can also eliminate neediness by building up your social network. Make friends with as many women as you can. (Women are easy to make friends with.)
Also date as many women as you can… don’t restrict yourself to dating only “that one special girl.”
You see, the last thing you ever want to have going through your mind when you’re around that special woman is, “God, I MUST have this girl! She’s irreplaceable!” Having an abundance of women in your life will solve that problem.
Also, whenever a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy, she too feels attraction. Psychologically, this is known as the “social proof” phenomenon… and it’s much more powerful in women than men.
Ever noticed how your female friends drool over the guy at the corner of the bar who’s got four babes at his table? That’s social proof in action.
By the way, it’s fine to think a girl is beautiful and to have powerful feelings for her.
Here’s the key though… you must always remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there who are just as wonderful as she is.
If you start thinking that any girl is one of a kind, then that gives her power over you, and, ironically, makes her lose attraction to you.
So, you’re free to think that a woman’s amazing. Just remember that lots of other girls are amazing too. That way you won’t become needy.
So remember, place a high value on yourself, make her earn your attention, and hang out with as many women as possible… those are the three secrets for how to get a girl to like you.
How To make Her Trust You Completely
You see, for a woman to have sex with a guy, she must not only be attracted to him, but she must also trust him. Look at it like this:
1. Trust Without Attraction = “He’s a great friend and I love him to death!” (Translation: “We’ll NEVER have sex!”)
2. Attraction Without Trust = “I’m not a loose woman. He’ll have to wait before he gets any!”
However, if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy, she’ll be literally begging you to take her home with you that night.
Let’s take a typical scenario. Say it’s coming up on 11 PM, and you’ve been with a woman since 6 that afternoon. As long as you’ve had good rapport with her and you’ve kept pushing the interaction forward, you can assume she’s attracted to you.
And by the way, with a woman, you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise. Because the bottom line is that as long as you’ve got good body language, you’ve got a lot going on in your life, and you’re witty and interesting, she WILL be attracted to you.
Now you need to build trust. By the time you finish this article, you’ll know an easy, efficient way to do that.
And by the way, this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion. The most successful advertisers and salesmen to make billions use it, and now you’ll be able to use it with women.
Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous example of this was the wildly success Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the huge headline: “Lemon.”
The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect. VW took its quality inspections so seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars.
You see, if a person tells you something that’s against his self-interest, you tend to trust him more. We all do. It’s a fundamental trait of human psychology.
So when it comes to women, you should point out your minor flaws. Examples could be:
– “I have an ugly mole on my neck. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it.”
– “I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!”
– “I don’t always floss my teeth even though I should.”
Even if they’re fake flaws, it doesn’t necessarily matter. By pointing them out, you create a perception of honesty within the woman.
Because she believes the minor imperfections about you, she’ll believe the MAJOR PERFECTIONS about you as well.
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