A person that has been single for too long has been changed and may very well not be viable in a relationship. However that person has almost no awareness of this change within them. Often a person of this affliction will retreat into a self-induced psychosis of maligned and dubious justifications of; not enough time for companionship, their financial or personal domestic situation is not ideal at the time… they hide behind a self-comforting veil of needing their children to be a sole priority. And that there is no room to consider anything more, or it will affect their kids in some negative way, or themselves.They tend to justify laziness to themselves such as; they are waiting on God, the right one will come one day, or as soon as some certain situation gets better, they will be right back in the saddle. However… never once considering if they themselves, are the right one for someone.
Basically that they don’t want to upset their kids or family by introducing someone new… All the while these people have lost sight of the fact that every day, we lose 24 hours from our life clock and that they do not in fact have countless years to live, loose, learn, or love again.
All of these ailments become engrained within them over the duration of their self-prescribed solitude and start to change their reasoning and acceptance on numerous levels. So that when these people actually find themselves back in a “promise” of connection, or a relationship. They now cannot survive the ph or environment, of what could be a promising union. Small, yet adverse mannerisms and behaviors have now consumed them… They have become set in their ways (not necessarily bad ways) and have become difficult. Which usually makes any person un able to domesticate, or be in a domesticated relationship with another person.
Examples of this are things such as; sharing a bed… They are now at a point where they can’t sleep effectively when another person occupies a bed with them and lays claim to some of the covers…
Things like eating, cooking, watching tv… Small things that over time, is now hard for them to share with another person and be involved with them in close proximity. Without feeling invaded, smothered or manipulated into expected compromise in some way.
There are many more characteristics, that I am not gonna dig into here on this blog and type forever, but you get the gist. These people should not be dated or involved with in anyway, as they are no longer viable in a relationship. A human that is happy being alone or single, will be happy not being in a relationship for long either and will be quick to run. Often they will find ways to run and pull back before a relationship even begins, as they have grown so cold inside now. That they no longer see a relationship with another person as a vital part of their well being and you must ask yourself…
If they aren’t concerned with their own health in the most basic and primal sense, would they ever be concerned about yours? Of course not.
Move on from these people and continue of with someone who does want to share a relationship… a life with someone.