An incredible saying states; “It may be taking longer than you’d want, but it doesn’t imply anything g has stopped happening.
Do your best to have faith in the procedure.” There comes a time in everyone’s life when they hear someone declare, “A do-over is impossible at this point.
My life is going to be like this from now on.” And sometimes, we feel so trapped that we give up hope altogether. It’s never too late to start afresh, so let go of these defeatist ideas.
Just because something takes too long or seems impossible doesn’t mean you’ve lost!
1 ACCEPT THE PAST
The trouble is, there’s nothing you can do to alter the past unless you can manipulate time, which I’m going to assume you don’t.
Consequently, dwelling on it constantly will only lead to regret. Then you’ll have even more trouble dealing with the here and now because of your regrets.
Instead of dwelling on what has happened, you should accept that it has already happened and move the fuck on. Accept the facts of your past and work on improving your present and future instead of dwelling on your past mistakes.
Just give yourself a break; shit, we’ve all messed up. But you need to get over it and move on with your life.
2 REFLECT ON WHAT WENT WRONG IN THE PAST
And this is the sole silver lining to your past misfortunes: they usually come with a lesson, a new experience, and a chance to develop yourself.
Sit back, review past events, and evaluate the circumstances to determine what went wrong. Please make an effort to ensure that this doesn’t become a recurring problem after you’ve dealt with it.
Learning from your mistakes and missteps in the past will help you avoid repeating the same mistakes and stumbling blocks in the future.
3 IDENTIFY YOUR GOALS
Having clear objectives in mind is a great approach to the beginning again. Sometimes we fail to clearly define our objectives, which can slow down our progress toward those objectives.
Remember that one of the most important characteristics of an achievable goal is clarity, which means that You should outline your objectives precisely.
If you want to better your life, you need to see what needs to change, and goal setting can help you do that.
As a first step, you can keep a notebook in which you list your objectives and categorize them as either long-term or immediate.
The next step is to outline a series of actions you can take to achieve each objective. You’ll have accomplished more than just articulating your aspirations by the time you’re done here; you’ll have laid out a clear path to your achievement in the form of a set of measurable, actionable steps.
Expert advice: keep these objectives in mind every day, and you’ll be amazed at the boost to your drive that you’ll experience.
4 FIND OUT WHAT’S WORKING AND WHAT’S NOT
Things aren’t going as planned, so we need to start afresh. But most of the time, we don’t even know what that is! The human mind is so ingenious that it only needs daily reflection to solve this issue.
To figure out what might be wrong, it is necessary to pause every day and consider the entirety of your day’s actions, one by one, to determine which ones could use some tweaking.
If you find that your current routine needs a complete overhaul, you can easily start doing things differently. Most importantly, if this doesn’t work out, try not to beat yourself up over it; failure is an integral part of development.
Consider them valuable educational experiences because you can rest assured that you won’t repeat the same assy mistake twice!
5 LEAVE YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Oh no, this one can make you feel a little awkward. However, one of the most effective ways to begin again is to step outside your usual routine.
Think outside the box. In other words, break your routine and try something new. Stop being a pussy and make an effort to expand your horizons.
Did you know that exploring new interests is one of the best ways to increase neural activity? Notably, this results in higher levels of inspiration and initiative.
What’s even better, though? You’ll feel like you’ve got a fresh lease on life after some life-altering encounters, and who knows, maybe this is the correct road after all.
6 PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK
It’s only natural to experience some difficulty whenever you do something novel. And the difficulty may make it appear as though no progress is being made.
That, however, is a falsehood that you should reject. The fact that you are making any improvement is encouraging, even if it is gradual. Recognize your progress and reward yourself.
You should give yourself a high five because you have been killing it lately. As your confidence grows, you’ll be more motivated to continue improving, all because you encouraged yourself.
7 TAKE A BREAK
None of this applies to you if you are a robot that can function indefinitely without sleep or energy. However, if you are a feeling, thinking human being, you should incorporate a rest period into your fresh start.
Taking a break isn’t the same as giving up, not even close. It allows you to relax and regroup for a time.
It’s a great visual aid for gauging progress and setting goals. Taking a break gives you time for introspection and review, which is crucial.
We, as human beings, need breaks to function properly. The motto should be “rest and refresh.” Go and get some ass and refresh your bodies productive chemicals, your spirit and dynamic energy, your focus and overall health.
8 EXPECT SETBACKS
Does anyone claim they’ve never had any failure, no matter how small? Um… Yeah, I doubt it! Everyone, especially those trying to make a fresh start, experiences failure at some point.
Whether your “fresh start” involves changing your lifestyle, changing those around you, changing your ways of thinking, changing careers or relocating to a new country.
You should know that it’s normal to be nervous about making such a big change and worry that you’ll fail.
One thing to keep in mind is that you shouldn’t let any of that stop you. And the second thing you should keep in mind? Don’t let any of that motivate you.
Nothing else—not failures or defeats—but your ambitions should motivate you. Knowing that you could and may fail again… Strengthens and grows you.
9 GAIN A FRESH PERSPECTIVE
Changing your outlook is essential if you hope to escape your current predicament. Did you ever pause to consider why you keep getting it wrong?
Is it possible that your problem stems from how you characterize your capabilities? You may have stupid reasoning, you may suffer from piss poor decision making, you may have idiotic preferences.
That are contrary to your advancement… Your decision making ability, may be comparable to a 12 year olds… Or maybe it’s because you have the same outlook on problems, as a one dimensional thinking racist.
Who only see’s black & white… If you change your frame of reference, you can see things in a new light. It’s anyone’s guess. Maybe you’ll find the key to turning your life around.
10 RECOGNIZE THE CHALLENGES
There is nothing easy about overcoming obstacles. Let’s flip it around; if you knew you would confront obstacles, would they be quite so daunting? Unquestionably not!
Consider the following scenario: you and your buddies are camping in a forest where snakes are common. Now, these snakes will undoubtedly present you and your companions with a difficult challenge, but you now know what to expect and may take precautions.
Recognizing the obstacles you overcame the first time will help you succeed the next time. Take the time to record these difficulties and brainstorm at least three to four potential remedies. Therefore, you will have a firm grasp of the issue and its corresponding solution.
11 REMEMBER YOUR VALUES
In prior lessons, we established that your values are what make you who you are. Does this, however, imply that your beliefs are set in stone?
Without a doubt, nope. It is equally crucial to examine your values when you decide to start anew and determine whether or not they need to be altered.
At the same time that you are figuring out what you care about most in life, you should also take stock of how your priorities have shifted or stayed the same throughout the years.
Is their previous significance still relevant? If you answer these questions, you’ll be better able to determine what’s most important to you.
12 MAKE THE DECISION
You now know where you went wrong, the difficulties you encountered, your core beliefs and priorities, and what you must do to begin again.
You are at a crossroads in your life and must choose a path forward. Have you started a new job? The formation of a brand-new nation?
A whole new academic discipline? No matter what it is, it would be best if you chose to do it. It’s also possible that you have more options to work with when you reset.
Furthermore, when deciding, remember that the road you take should adhere to your principles or at least be consistent with them and that it should be an improvement over the previous one.
If something doesn’t click or feel right, you always have the option to try again.
13 FIND A MENTOR
Accepting that you need help is perfectly OK. It’s OK to admit that you need guidance and instruction; even the most accomplished leaders started as students.
Having mentors is essential when starting over because there is a high probability that someone else has been in a similar circumstance.
Someone who has already accomplished everything they’ve ever wanted to or who you believe knows your position and has conquered it in the past could be your mentor.
A mentor can help you in many ways, including providing direction, inspiration, and accountability. As an added note, your mentors need not be someone you already know; they can be anyone you think can help you get back on your feet.
You can always locate a life coach in your area with a quick freakin Google search if you want to skip the time-consuming process of choosing a mentor.
And just don’t know anyone intelligent and inciteful.
14 BE POSITIVE
While it’s true that starting afresh can be difficult, it won’t help to approach it with pessimism. Imagine it as a daring exploration of the unknown, and do so with a beaming grin.
Keep a cheerful outlook and assure yourself that everything will work out. Give it some more time, and you’ll see they eventually come around if you keep trying.
15 SET NEW GOALS
Before starting over keep in mind, When making a fresh start, one must establish new objectives and formulate strategic plans to achieve them.
As you do so, keep in mind the considerations I discussed at the outset of my blog: your goals should be well-defined and open to fresh perspectives.
Ideally, they would either represent your fundamental beliefs or help you form new ones.
Establishing objectives for your new trip will help you feel more focused and motivated.
No one should view starting afresh as an impossible adventure, and even if most people do, who are they to say that we can’t make a difference?
16 TAKE ACTION
Now that you’ve gone back to the drawing board and made some crucial decisions, it’s time to put them into practice. Just do it!
You can do anything if you begin with an optimistic frame of mind. As always, Larry will be rooting for you. I’ll even help you to start over if you need.
It may cost a little, it may cost a lot… but it will cost, lol! Get to me!
