1 People Who Like to Tell Stories About Other People
1 People Who Like to Tell Stories About Other PeopleGossips are not to be trusted. The reason is simple. If they’re speaking smack about someone else, they’ll go and do the same about you. And what does it say about you if you’re listening to and encouraging this kind of toxic behavior.
The only kind of “speaking about other people” you should be doing, is saying great things about them. “Oh, did you hear that Felicia got engaged to that lovely guy from gym?” or “Duncan got a promotion at work, isn’t that amazing?”
2 Those That Belittle Their Ex
The funny thing about this type of person is that they often think they’re doing good with their new partner by belittling or badmouthing their ex… but it does the exact opposite.
Again, what will happen if or when you break up or things go a little awry… will that person then go and badmouth you to their new partner, their family or friends?
That’s pretty shitty.
On the other hand, a person you can trust, is one that doesn’t say awful things about their ex. One that keeps their past private and doesn’t share all the details with you.
Respect your ex and your new partner enough to do the same.
This will put your new relationship off to a great start.
3 People Who Flirt Too Much and Are Too Touchy/Feely
Have you ever been around someone that is just a little too flirty and a little too affectionate? Doesn’t that person make you feel hella uncomfortable?
Like you just want to cover up and keep far away. Your instinct is bang on…
And if you’re in a monogamous relationship with someone, you’ll quickly know the difference between an innocent
smile to the waiter and “thanks for the service”.
Or “thanks for the service, I bet you make a lot of tips,” followed by a wink.
So, look out for prolonged eye-contact, dialogue with a sexual undercurrent, overly touchy/feely, body language and personal questions that make you feel anxious.
This person is trouble, deceptive and for the streets, and in the famous words of Taylor Swift, “I knew you were trouble when you walked in.” Yeah, it applies to both sexes too.
4 Those That Only Speak About Themselves
Egocentric people are plain hard work. They switch the conversation to revolve around them and change plans to suit their own interests.
Surely you know by now that the world revolves around them. *cough* *cough*
In Terry Pratchett’s “Eric”, which if you’ve read it, he says, “Hell needed horribly bright, self-centered people like Eric. They were much better at being nasty than demons could ever manage.”
I don’t think I can top that explanation, even if I tried.
5 People Whose Story Is Always Bigger Than Yours
They are “sicker” than you, have a car that broke down worse than yours, have a worse job, or their kid is saying the alphabet at 1 month while yours is still gurgling away… they win better than you!
Either way, positive or negative… Their stories are all round simply better than yours.
So, it’s not like they’re the most untrustworthy people in the world, because truthfully, you could tell them any secret or story and they wouldn’t even remember it to retell it.
Why? Because they’re so busy thinking of their bigger and better story to tell, they’re not even listening to you!
6 Those That Fall in Love Too Quickly
They’re not bad people, but you also don’t want to get hurt yourself and someone who is perpetually falling in love is really unsure about who they are and what they need.
And sadly, often people who fall in love quickly, also like the drama. They set themselves up for failure and then it’s all tears, and why doesn’t anyone love me sort of vibe.
And that in itself is just exhausting, needy and very Simp like.
If you’re in a new relationship and the person is telling you that they love you from like the 2nd date, and you’ve filled a void in their life.
And they were lost until they found you, tread very carefully. These people often go full blown fuckin crazy if you break if off, even if it’s just been a week!
7 Pathological Liars
Sometimes we meet a good Samaritan who will warn us about someone being a pathological liar, and we don’t believe them for whatever reason.
We think they’re jealous, a bitch, speaking shit probably tryin to fuck and so on.
You usually only believe they’re like this after you’ve been lied to a few times too many.
So, how do you recognize a pathological liar?
It’s quite easy really:
They’re either the hero. The one who saved the day. Or they’re the victim. Oh, poor me – bad things always happen to me.
Their stories are bigger than what they truly are… think of a 4-year old telling you about the size of the fish he caught. Same thing.
Where it gets confusing, is they literally believe the lies they tell. So, when they’re telling you the story, you believe it too because they are SO convincing.
You even doubt yourself if you happened to be at the site of the same story.
8 People Who Are Too Nice
Even the word nice is so Meh. It should be banned from the English vocab but here we are. We all know that one person who is nice all the time, and the problem with this type of behavior is that they’re not being honest, are they?
Sometimes shitty things happen, and you want to shake the nice person and say, “show some emotion.”
And there is a huge difference between being nice and being kind. Being kind often means telling somebody something they don’t want to hear, but you have to tell them to help them improve themselves.
And we’ve all been on the receiving end of kind words that stung but it’s important to remember, it takes courage to say those things.
9 School “Friends” Who Suddenly Want to Meet Up
“Ping” you hear a Facebook message notification and guess what, it’s Amanda… you think you went to high school with her but can’t quite recall… because you weren’t really friends.
Hmm, strange, she wants to meet for a coffee. Now, why would that be?
Here are a few possibilities:
She wants to rope you into some MLM or pyramid scheme.
She wants to sell you something.
She wants an introduction to someone you know.
She needs money.
She thinks you can give her a boost up the social ladder.
Think I’ve covered the basics, but I’d love you to add your “out of the blue” random meet up in the comments!
10 People Who Can’t Apologize
Have you ever received these half-assed attempts at an apology?
“I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry you’re angry, or “I’m sorry If I offended you.” You damn well did offend me, and I’d like a proper apology.
These people will never take responsibility for their mistakes and will make you feel bad for reacting the way you did, when you were pissed enough to fuck ’em up!
Shifting the blame from themselves onto you.
Like the late Randy Pausch said, “Proper apologies have three parts: 1) What I did was wrong. 2) I’m sorry that I hurt you. 3) How do I make it better?”
Have you ever stopped to think if your boundaries have been violated? See how you do with the next point before deciding.
11 People Who Violate Your Boundaries
So, how do you know that your boundaries have been violated?
You have to justify that person’s behavior to friends and family. For example, your wife speaks to you in such a rude, condescending manner, and you tell your friends, “she only speaks to me like that when she’s stressed.” No – not okay.
You take all the blame when things go wrong. No – also not okay.
You feel guilt. Example – you have a drinking night once a month with your boys, and your girlfriend or wife knows this. But every drinking night, she never wants to go but she texts and messages you, telling you she isn’t feeling good.
She’s bored, right this minute horny, or your child is missing you if y’all have any. So you have no choice but to feel guilty and thus, no fun with drinking night!
And yes, this works both ways for him and her.
Do any of these situations ring a bell? Learn to say NO. It isn’t easy, but you need to start looking after yourself.
12 Cheaters
It sounds so obvious, doesn’t it? Don’t trust someone who has cheated on you. But it goes far deeper than that.
I’m not just referring to a person who is cheating in his or her relationship, I’m also speaking about your friend whom you know to be a cheater.
Why are you hanging out with that girl or guy? Does that person make you proud to be their friend? Do their values align with yours?
Why do you place your trust in a person that is purposefully hurting someone else?
What about someone who is cheating on their taxes? Or someone who accepts their change from the cashier, even though she’s overpaid…
knowing that cashier will most likely have to pay that in themselves.
Cheaters always look for an easy out, a quick fix, are sore losers and bad winners. Walk away! If not, guess who else will be getting cheated eventually?
13 Passive Aggressive or Competitive
Life isn’t a race to see who can get to the finish line first. It’s going at your own pace and finding peace, fulfilment, joy and love.
If you know someone who is constantly competing with you, it’s not healthy! You’re both on your own journey… and it’s best to break the ties on that one.
Then let’s look at passive aggressive people – you know them because they’re the ones that will either sulk, be moody, give back-handed compliments, withdraw, or not partake in conversation.
They will say things like, “I wish I could own a nice car like yours, big sigh, but I guess that’s never going to happen… Umm, what just happened there?
They’ve taken the attention away from you and your nice car and made it about themselves!
Or, the very best… I don’t mean to offend you but…, so, I don’t mean to offend you but let’s move on to our next point!
14 Those That Are Easily Offended and Have No Sense of Humor
Who not to invite to your dinner people… exactly! We are not saying don’t be professional, but if you’re taking yourself too seriously, then that’s a problem.
Often people who are super serious or a bit on the dull side, see life in black and white. There is no grey scale, which means that new ideas, fresh viewpoints, and alternative ways of living might not always bode well with these kinds of people.
People who don’t poke fun at themselves are often insecure and afraid to show their true colors.
And honestly, don’t get me started on easily offended… it’s not always about you Karen!
I’ve saved the best… I mean worst for last…
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