In life, some lessons can’t be taught in a classroom or found in books.
And often, these unspoken lessons are the most important shit a person needs to know.
These are the unspoken life lessons that only come from personal experiences and the challenges we face.
Lesson #1 – You are not made out of glass
This is the first thing you learn when you go through immense hardship.
You are not this fragile human being who can only take so much before you get overwhelmed.
Even big changes like moving to an entirely different country, quitting the job you’ve been working on for so many years, or going through a bad breakup won’t break you like you think they would.
Your tolerance to bull shit is way higher than you think, you just need to test it a bit.
Sometimes, you might just need a little break, or a reset, to get back on track.
At some point in life, you’ll have to go through something like this. It’s not the end of the world.
The unspoken life lesson here is that very few things are “the end of the world”.
Lesson #2 – You overestimate your fear
This unspoken life lesson teaches us that most of the things that seem terrifying to us are actually not that bad.
You just imagine the worst-case scenario.
But just as it’s extremely unlikely to get everything right, it’s also extremely unlikely to get everything absolutely wrong.
Have a little fuckin faith in yourself.
Let fear just be there, as a reminder of the risks you are taking, but do not let it overwhelm you.
You see, being fearless doesn’t mean lacking fear; it means doing the things you must do, despite the fact that they may be scary to you.
Lesson #3 – Most things have a very short learning curve
It’s been said that it takes 10,000 hours to master something.
It might be true, and it might vary a bit from person to person, some people are simply dumb asses.
But we can all agree that you need to practice a lot to become really good at something.
But, there’s also another side to this that’s not spoken about too often, and I think it’s actually more valuable than the 10.000 hours rule.
It takes less than 100 hours to become familiar with something.
That’s less than a month of practice.
You see, most things have a very short learning curve. Meaning you get used to it fairly quickly.
Think about driving, for example.
Becoming a professional race driver takes years of practice.
However, learning to get safely from A to B is not that difficult.
And this unspoken life lesson applies to most skills out there, whether it be fucking or drywalling.
Lesson #4 – Some things just don’t work out
No matter how much you try to make something happen, sometimes it’s not meant to be. And not from a “destiny” point of view, but from circumstances.
Maybe the timing is wrong, perhaps you’re not ready, or perhaps that thing is just not for you and you’ve been lying to yourself.
The point is, just because something doesn’t work out doesn’t mean you failed.
If you need to let go of something, let it go and move on.
Lesson #5 – Fix what’s bothering you
Don’t let little things that bother you go unmanaged because eventually, they will make you bitter.
That is having a beta mindset…
If someone does something you don’t particularly appreciate, or if you do something you don’t like, address it.
Don’t let it sit there and fester… Then get all emotionally distraught and start acting all beta, because you feel some weak type of way.
Easy problems are usually fixed easily if they are addressed when they happen. Doing this and managing your shit is an alpha mindset.
But it becomes trickier to fix something that you’ve let happen for years because, by this point, you’ve created a seriously disturbing habit.
Lesson #6 – Your health is more important than you give it credit for
This unspoken life lesson applies to both your physical and mental health.
When you’re under, like, 25, you feel indestructible. You can function with barely any sleep and a happy meal in your stomach just fine.
But after 30, things start to change a bit. And they change suddenly. It almost takes you by surprise.
Yesterday you were fine; now you need a back pillow for your chair because someone cursed you with lower back pain overnight.
You see, health is one of those things that’s not a problem until it suddenly is.
You can’t just get healthy real quick.
It takes time, and you need to do it proactively.
And the way the world works right now, it promotes being incredibly unhealthy and inactive.
Fast food will always be more convenient; you sit everywhere, and ironically, all this takes more of your time than the other way around.
You need to actively push against it and reserve time for your own health.
Lesson #7 – Don’t chase someone else’s dream
Look, it takes some time to become your own person, could take decades for many of us out here.
Up until then, you lived a predefined life built by your immediate environment.
You go to the same school as everybody else, you take the same classes as everybody else, you dream of the same high-paying job as everybody else, and the list goes on.
But at some point, you need to break away from this predefined path. You cannot stay in a fucking bubble forever.
If you don’t expose yourself to new things, things you’ve never tried and never thought of trying before.
You cannot and will not grow as a person of broad intelligence and experiences.
And it takes a lot of courage to say, “Actually, you know what? I think I’ll do something else.”
Lesson #8 – You are already “living the life”
Have you ever heard someone say, “Ah man, I can’t wait for that to happen, so I can start living the life”?
Well, guess what? You already are!
7.8 billion people are currently, quite literally, living the life. There is no magical point from which life begins.
If you sacrificed most of your life and you became wealthy at, like, 85, what’s the point, really?
Some things are meant to be done at different points in life.
You’re not going skiing in the Alps with your buddies between therapy sessions for your arthritis.
The main takeaway from this unspoken life lesson is to go live! Make some noise!
Stop taking so many risks
Yes, you heard that right.
Once in a blue moon, a massive risk actually plays out.
A lot of you may have heard of Fred Smith, the FedEx founder who literally gambled the company’s last $5000 on blackjack and won $27,000, saving the company from bankruptcy at the last minute.
But what about Lorenzo Ferdinand, the former CEO of Continental Airlines, who, in an attempt to save the company from bankruptcy.
Took a risky move by using the company’s funds to speculate in the oil market?
Nobody has heard of him ever since. I wonder why…
You see, playing it nice and steady is almost always the better option.
It’s easy to look back and see countless opportunities where big risks could have meant a fortune.
But since you can’t see the future, you can only speculate.
Basing your strategy on“maybe it will work” rarely plays out.
You get 3 “fun slots”. Use them
Once you get more stable in life, you start unlocking what I call “fun slots”.
These are basically activities you do for fun in a repetitive manner.
From my experience, you get two that you can do pretty much every time you want and one that’s more seasonal.
Things like, I don’t know, martial arts and hiking, plus sailing in Greece in the summer.
If you get more than 3 you are either retired or extremely efficient with your resources.
Some people barely explore one of these fun slots. So, as this unspoken life lesson teaches us – Use them!
At the end of the day, or at the end of life, if you will, life is supposed to be relaxed and fun.
To conclude, don’t get too caught up in the hustle of everyday life.
Think of these 3 slots as bonuses you earn from your hard work. Don’t feel bad filling them up with fun stuff.
Spending money on a hobby is rewarding, and it makes you feel like you actually worked for something that you can now enjoy.
You’re not just a sad assed little mouse in the rat race.
Getting money should be a top priority, not the main priority.
If you don’t think money will solve most of your problems, you are naïve.
The only people who say“money doesn’t bring happiness” are rich people who want to sound relatable and poor people who look for an excuse.
I’m not saying you should always have “money on your mind” because that does more harm than good.
But you should always prioritize being able to provide for yourself and your family.
Moreover, you need to fix life problems before you can fix soul problems.
Go out there and get better, get smarter, get more educated, and increase your earning potential.
It really would be a shame if you didn’t.
Work for your titles
So what do I mean by this? During your life, you earn different titles.
Things like a great friend, a great partner, an athlete, an entrepreneur, shy, outgoing, a musician, and so on.
And these titles fade out if you don’t work to keep them.
You see, if you built a company 15 years ago and haven’t touched anything related since.
You were an entrepreneur then, you are not one now.
In the same way, if you were an athlete in college but haven’t maintained your physical condition since then.
You can’t call yourself an athlete now. So why is this unspoken life lesson useful?
For one, when you think about it like this, you can start working harder for the titles you want to keep.
And let go of the ones you used to have.
If you were untrustworthy and unreliable in the past, you could renounce those titles by becoming trustworthy and reliable.
You see, they are not for life.
Same with you, if you were a great creative person in the past and you liked that title, keep working for it.
We find it very liberating when we put things in this perspective.
Self-discipline is probably the most valuable trait; Those who master self-discipline, are the creators of their own future.
It’s as simple as that.
There is no personal problem you can have, that discipline can’t fix.
There is no goal that discipline can’t grab for you.
If you do the things you need to do, at the time they need to be done, the goals you put for yourself are unavoidable.
You just can’t fail. And since self-discipline is such a powerful force, it’s also insanely hard to achieve it.
You need to overcome a lot of different things, from who you are to where you are.
In order to truly become a master at self-discipline. Very few people are good at that.
Don’t avoid dealing with annoying people or situations
Yeah, I know, life is so much easier when you don’t have to deal with annoying people on a daily basis.
And most of the time, you can avoid situations that annoy you.
But you have to understand two things.
You can’t avoid annoying people forever.
You don’t have to be friends with someone to work together towards a common goal.
Learning how to deal with annoying shit and ass-hats is less of a headache than constantly avoiding it and them.
Find some form of life philosophy
Or, in other words, find what’s valuable for you and what’s not, and then pursue it at your own pace.
This is the only way to become truly free. You see, this isn’t about what feels good and what feels bad.
This isn’t about your feelings. It’s about what’s worth having.
If you value having a very high health level, you will have to go through the inconvenience and pain of altering your body through exercise and nutrition.
If you value having healthy relationships, you need to learn how to deal with your emotions and other people’s emotions.
Finally, people who lack a life philosophy live their lives solely on impulse and what feels good at the time.
And who knows? That might be what’s worth it for you.
In life, some lessons can’t be taught in a classroom or found in books. 
