Sometimes, a man seems very sweet to talk to and he actually may be. He vibes with you so well, but he just never initiates anything.You’re the one to always call or text first, or else the silence will go on forever.
But when you hit him up, he responds enthusiastically, and you proceed to have such a vibrant conversation that leaves you beaming and dreaming of all that could be and seems likely.
He brightens your days. He clearly likes you just like you like him, and he expresses it during your flirtatious chats, that sometimes run way into the night and morning.
And so you begin to get troubled as to why he never starts anything if he enjoys talking to you so much?
here’s what’s up though…
If you’re not careful, you’ll make the mistake many females make: They fill in the gaps, based on their own flawed reasoning and fall in love.
And then they start complaining about how the man sucks at communication, after you / she has invested her feelings, her fears and past abuses, her time and even her money…
And yet that guy was like that from the beginning. YOU, just didn’t choose to acknowledge it to yourself…
The simple explanation is that this man probably does indeed like you (to an extent).
And continues talking with you, attempting to find more things to like about you that fall in line with what he wants. But he’s not choosing you. Simple.
Perhaps because he is not in want of a full, or even a specific, more casual relationship now emotionally. Or he has other things he’s pursuing first, or he has someone else.
He may never explain his reasons since you’re not an insider in his life yet, we often don’t and never feel like we have too. But since you’re a nice lady and he likes you, he will respond when you reach out, message or call.
And if you visit him he’ll be happy to chill with ya… And if you want to hang around or even sleep over, he can still welcome it, depending on the degree of principle and purity he’s living by.
Some males will be humane and merciful and stop you from getting too involved with them, when they’re not available for you. But many are not humane at all… (Remember I am warning you!)
They will happily exploit the opportunity when a nice lady falls for them without him pursuing her. You / She may even get pregnant by him on purpose or unintended…
Thinking he’ll then choose you / her, but he only shuts her / you out even more.
In short, take the absence of communication as an absence of interest. Take mixed signals as a negative signal, and you’ll escape many pitfalls.
Until next time.
#alphalife #savage
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